People Are Sharing The Spicy Workplace Affairs They Either Participated In Or Witnessed, And It's An HR Nightmare
"Over the span of two years, I had FOUR workplace affairs."
"Over the span of two years, I had FOUR workplace affairs."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
"His marriage fell apart over another affair he was having. He ended our situationship the day after I returned from vacation a year or so later, saying he would try an honest relationship with another coworker. The next message he sent was asking me not to ghost him. We tried to be friends for another few months before I finally ended even the friendship, and now we don't speak. Sadly, I accidentally fell for him and still miss him, but life is definitely more peaceful now."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
"I wrote an anonymous letter to the leaders of this government organization, many of whom were Mormon and highly religious, telling them about the affair, how it was negatively affecting morale, etc. As soon as the letters were delivered, I saw a huge flurry of urgent, secret meetings. Unfortunately, the two people having the affair kept their jobs. But, I know they were disciplined, embarrassed, and criticized in front of their bosses and then were forced into a different reporting structure so that the woman no longer oversaw her male partner."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
"Woman B's daughter heard the news at the same time as the rest of us. It was pretty humiliating. Ultimately, Woman B left her husband of nearly 20 years, hooked up with the assistant manager, and tried to work on her relationship with her daughter. I left the company, and so did Woman B, but to my knowledge, Woman A never got fired and is still there, and so is the assistant manager."
—Anonymous
"Then, when things weren't moving fast enough for the wife, she came to the school and tried fighting multiple teachers (with students present). Police were involved, a restraining order ensued, parents were in an uproar, and it was utter chaos. Nothing ended up happening to any staff (male or female). Likewise, the male staff member is still married to his wife and still works at the school. It's also assumed that he's still in an extramarital relationship with at least one of the female teachers. But, the wife took their children out of school."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
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—Anonymous
"I told him no, I was just talking to the second guy. He called me and BLEW UP. 'How could you? After everything we shared?' Mind you, we had barely talked in the four months since he'd left the job, and he hadn't said he wanted to get together. I got off that phone call QUICKLY. A few weeks later, the second guy ghosted me on our first date. At least he wasn't on the job anymore."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
"He was 10 years older, married, had kids, and wasn't doing great. But he was probably the most attractive thing I had seen. We made out in the parking lot that night. After that, it was a month of sneaking into the cooler to steal kisses or meeting up at a park and hooking up in my car. I didn't once think about his family or what I was doing.
Then, one day, he told me his wife confronted him and said she didn't have proof, but she knew he was having an affair. It turned out that the whole time we were doing intimate things, he wasn't doing anything with her. I didn't want the drama, and by then, the job was getting to me too much, so I quit. I never saw or spoke to him again."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
"She got back together with her ex (sucked for me), and at some point, I got the impression they were rocky again because she would hang out at my place (we are neighbors, too). One night, she asked if she could crash at my place. Just like in the movies, she ended up wearing a shirt of mine, and things were on again. The sex and the chemistry are unreal between her and me. I kind of had an on-and-off thing with her even after they finally broke it off and she left work.
She and I have gone through a lot together, and she is and will always be one of my favorite human beings. Life happens, and even though we are still very close, the sleepovers have stopped, and she just wants to be friends now. She's in a great place and thriving in her life. I am with someone amazing, but there will always be a part of me that wishes we were together. Maybe in another lifetime."
—Anonymous
"His wife, on the other hand, had always disliked me in the office and was known to passive-aggressively bully me so much that the staff and the boss became aware of it. The boss told me to ignore her and be a better person. She was the boss's favorite person. Needless to say, my work environment was toxic. I figured someday she would get hers. And she has since then. Our employer, the Navy, got wind of her shoddy and dishonest business practices with our boss, and they were immediately terminated.
In the meantime, I continued talking to this remarkable man. We're still talking nearly every night. I discovered I needed to step back from our friendship for my sanity and didn't have the strength to do so. I proceeded to move across the United States to start healing myself. I have since blocked him. However, I will never forget how beautiful I felt with this man. He was what I needed at that time. He helped me pick myself back up and hold my head high. Do I consider myself a homewrecker? No, his marriage was and still is his responsibility. Was it wrong? Absolutely. I cannot say I will ever regret him. I hope he realizes what he married and stops burying his head at work."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
"One night, my husband snooped through my phone and found a pic from the guy. We had a very long night, and he still wanted me to stay with him even after he found out. By the morning, my husband called the guy and confronted him, and the guy said he'd never see or speak to me again. It broke my heart, and I felt so tricked by him because I believed him when he told me he loved me, he'd wait for my divorce, etc. That was my karma. But jokes on him because our marriage is better than ever. While he is still searching for 'the one,' I'll never give up my husband, and I'm glad it made us stronger in the end."
—Anonymous
—Anonymous
"He didn't ask me out until my Uber was a minute away, hesitating because he didn't want to take advantage of my theoretically still-fresh breakup (that I was honestly hardly worried about at this point). I said yes immediately, and we began seeing each other. We returned to being very professional at the office and didn't get caught for a few months. We were found out when he called out after breaking his ankle, and then I called out to take care of him until his parents got to town. I was so nervous I'd be fired, but our team was supportive. The managers made a few office assignment switches under the guise of a new person starting. Two years later, we are living together and still at the same office. I don't think there is anyone else I could put up with at both work and home, but in this case, it's very easy."
—Anonymous
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