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Third Wheel

The Best Alternative to Dating Apps? Running Clubs, Apparently.

Inspired by one thirsty TikTok video after another, users are hoping to find their next romantic encounter at the finish line. Here’s what you should know before dating a runner.

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A smiling woman in a sleeveless shirt and leggings sinks into a squat as someone stretches beside her on a sidewalk. Behind them, about a dozen more people in exercise apparel sweat and mill about, seemingly at the end of a run.
Cindy Sandjo, left, joined a local running club mainly for the exercise and the sense of community. “But I stayed,” she said, “because, yeah, it’s an opportunity for me to find a husband.”Credit...Shelby Tauber for The New York Times

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Cindy Sandjo, a 29-year-old content creator who works in I.T. and lives in Dallas, was initially interested in joining a running club because she was in search of other Black people she could connect with.

She joined her first run at the end of May and immediately began posting videos about her newfound interest on social media. She was quickly informed by her followers that running clubs “are the new dating apps.”

“I joined for the running and also for the community, just to find people that have similar interests as me,” she said. “But I stayed because, yeah, it’s an opportunity for me to find a husband.”

A recent flurry of videos on TikTok and Instagram suggests that running clubs, in addition to being a great way to improve one’s health and train with other like-minded individuals, are also the new way to date. Why chase potential lovers online when they may be waiting for you at the finish line?

After about a week of training with Run It Up, a Dallas running club, Ms. Sandjo was stopped during a run by another participant who said he had seen her Instagram. It was a Saturday, and they struck up conversation, exchanged contact information and messaged each other before meeting up the next day to run together.

“I told him, ‘I’m just starting to run, so I’m sorry if I slow you down,’” she recalled. “And he was like, ‘No no no, it’s going to be my off day, so I’ll match your pace.’”


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